To establish the idea that self care is a relationship vs. a checklist, let’s look at a few other things that require consistency and a daily practice: meditation, exercise, healthy eating, positive relationships, and good rest. All of these things are related to self care. And all of these things feel good when practiced regularly.

All too often, when it comes to self care, it’s common human behavior to place things like self care in a checkbox and mark it as done.

Whether cleaning is a pleasurable experience for you or if you’d rather kick rocks than clean your toilet, you can transform your mindset surrounding the act of cleaning through feel-good rituals that can be practiced both during and after the cleaning experience. Following up with positive reinforcement with these feel-good rituals creates a feedback loop in your brain that associates these good experiences with house cleaning.

My secret sauce to transformation is returning to those stuck feelings and to create movement – both metaphorically and physically. This is actually backed by neuroscience: when you work with your hands, it builds better and stronger connections in your brain.

Claiming space at home is a challenge for many. Let’s start by unraveling this with one simple concept: claiming your space all starts with mindset.